Happy New Year! This year we all have several things in our lives we want to improve. One of which should be getting closer to our spouse! In order to do this we need to go on a few dates! Seriously!

To start off this new year, go on a "second first-date" with your spouse. Guys, tell your spouse you will pick her up at ______ p.m. This means your ride has to be clean and spotless like it was on your "first first-date." (I hope) Also, Don't forget the flowers!

Ladies, dress up a little and take some time getting ready. Remember, this is a first date we are talking about!

While at dinner, take some time to get re-connected with your spouse on a deeper level. Ask them questions you would ask someone you were having dinner with for the first time. However, this is a time to go beyond the surface. Ask your spouse about their dreams, goals and asperations. Other questions include:

- What do you see yourself doing career-wise in the next five years?
- What characteristics are the most attractive to you in a man/woman?
- What things are you passionate about?
- What gives you purpose when you wake up in the morning?
- What motivates you?

These questions are just a few examples. Again, this is a time to reconnect and get a deeper and in some aspects, more basic understanding of one another. The goal here is to let your spouse know you still have butterflies when you see them. Also, this exercise should serve as a way to remind one another of why you got married and what initially attracted you.

Overall, have fun and enjoy the company! And just in case you were wondering, it is o.k. to kiss on your second first-date!